

One Divorce Statistic You Shouldn’t Ignore
Marriage is work and, although engaged couples rarely envision themselves as a divorce statistic, roughly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. When you ask people what predicts divorce, many say cheating, laziness, or self-centeredness. Those qualities hurt a marriage and prevent healthy growth in the marriage, but they don’t predict divorce as significantly as a husband’s employment status does. Starting in 1970, a sociology professor began compiling research data on the


What Annoys You Most About Your Partner is Your Problem
Relationships are complicated, and the longer you live with someone, the more annoying their quirks and behaviors can become. What if I told you the things that annoyed you most about your partner were issues you had and were blindly projecting onto your partner? For example, let’s say your partner goes to bed after leaving a mess in the kitchen. You end up forfeiting time in bed with them to clean up and then go to bed feeling resentful and angry. First thing in the morning,


Does falling out of love mean it’s over?
Why falling out of love may be the best thing that happens to your marriage. Divorce happens in approximately one out of two marriages. That number has fluctuated and, although we are currently seeing fewer divorces, many people still choose divorce over working on their marriage. Roughly half of divorced couples say they split up because they “fell out of love” with their partner. Is falling out of love the end of your relationship? Is it possible to fall back in love? Not o


No time for your marriage?
We all feel it – whether it’s caused by work pressure, financial strain, raising the kids, or the aftermath of Harvey. It feels like there’s not enough time from morning to night. When (or if) you get a free moment, rarely are you alone. Many couples feel guilty for taking precious time away from their children to relax and enjoy each other. A recent article from the Journal of Marriage and Family described a study by University of Minnesota researchers, who studied 47,000 co


Appreciation: Small Gestures with Big Impacts
It has been 16-years since the 9/11 attack in New York City. May all the lives that were lost on that day rest in peace. Many families are still carrying the burden of its effect today. National security has advanced in attempt to prevent similar attacks in the future. However, a life can be lost at any given moment- prevented or not. We are not guaranteed tomorrows. 9/11 reminds us that we should never take our loved ones for granted. While we honor those who lost their live


Cheating Outside the Bedroom
Long before physical cheating happens within a marriage there are episodes of mindless, careless actions couples begin doing. These are not thought of as cheating, but they are a betrayal and when you’re the partner of someone who is engaged with one of the “casual forms of cheating” you feel worthless, unloved and disrespected. Many couples don’t talk about their feelings and they dismiss them as not being important, or related to a bad mood or a bad day at work. However, be


3 Tips to Help Couples who Can't Commit
Fear of commitment is a common theme in movies, songs and love stories. It exists in both men and women, but is supported and actually excused with men. In fact, when I asked a group of friends which sex is more likely to have a fear of commitment they all said unanimously "men." More popular terms among men, but women suffer in silence with it as well. No one suffers fear of commitment as much as the person who is in love with a commitment-phobe. When you are in love with so


A Partner or a Project?
The three stages of love and marriage: you don’t know em, but you love em. You know em, and don’t love em. You know em and you love em. –Unknown I was recently asked by a viewer why women try to change their partner soon after they become intimate. This question sparked other questions from viewers who feel as though their partner began trying to change them as soon as they said, “I do.” Trying to change your partner is a no-win situation that is constantly brought up in ever


Change: An Important and Necessary Part of Life
No matter what’s going on in your life right now, one thing certain – it’s going to change. Everything changes, whether you’re graduating, getting married, beginning a new job, or changing diapers with a new baby. Change is never easy, but it becomes easier when we prepare and accept it. For marriage you prepare by engaging in pre-marital classes and for a new job you make sure you understand the tasks required and take additional training if necessary. The addition of a new


Millennials in Love: Bread Crumbing, Ghosting, or Cushioning
As a seasoned licensed therapist, I can tell you that relationships change over time and with society. For millennials it means wanting a Facebook relationship status that everyone will recognize, like, and comment on. They want couple photos on Instagram, along with both people looking happy and “in-vogue.” They want someone to come home to and who is there for them, but they don’t necessarily understand the work behind creating a relationship. This is a generation that grew