You may have dismissed it as being a made-up idea, but cuffing season is real and often begins in November. Just when you thought you’d stay home by the fire and enjoy your pumpkin-spiced latte, you get a text from someone who seems to really be into you. But is it sincere, or are they looking for a temporary relationship during the holidays? Cuffing season is a time when people who enjoy being single suddenly desire a serious relationship. Normally, you may be content being

When one partner begins blaming the other in the bedroom or withdraws from intimacy, very rarely do couples look at what is going on outside the bedroom. However, good sex begins outside the bedroom, and bad sex rarely happens when the rest of the relationship is well supported. Although couples come in seeking help in the bedroom, the problem rarely begins there or is focused there. If your bedroom has become more of an office or reading room than a place for love making, ch

Feeling bored in the bedroom? Summer is the perfect time to spice things up. An active and fulfilling sex life improves your overall emotional and physical health. It reduces stress, improves sleep, and promotes cardiovascular health. Incorporating one or two of these behaviors and reinvesting in keeping your summer romantic will change the mood around your house. Be open to trying new things in the bedroom. For example, consider: -Wearing lighter lingerie at night. -Wat

The thought of re-sparking a relationship with romance always sounds good, but many feel too tired, overwhelmed, or stressed to even get started. It’s not just time or kids that robs couples of the romance in their relationship, it’s the settling into routine and comfort. Although many partners want to please their partner and feel passionate about each other again, they tell themselves it’s impossible or put it off for another day. Although passion and desire change over tim

The royal wedding is days away and the most popular month to get married is right around the corner. If you’re considering marriage, you might be getting swept away with honeymoon venues and cake flavors. But is the person you’re vowing to share your life with forever the right person? There is a myth many couples believe when they walk down the aisle, particularly women. That myth is that you can change your partner after you’re married. Not only is it a myth but trying to c

No matter what magazine you pick up, you’ll find a section about relationships. Often, they promote the importance of physical attraction and chemistry, encouraging you to look or act a certain way. As a licensed therapist, I understand their view on the importance of chemistry and sex appeal. However, these aspects are not the keys to finding love or even being in a healthy relationship. Rather, these messages that “you’re not good enough” or “you don’t have the right look”

College used to be a time when dating was rampant. But now 60% of all college students are female and 40 % are male. There doesn’t seem to be enough males to go around. Women have given in to what everyone else is doing. That is hooking up. A hook up is when you go out, meet someone and have sex just for one night. No strings attached, sex is casual and knowing them or their name is not necessary. In fact the majority of hook ups are done under the influence of alcohol so it

My clinical practice involves working with men and women. For the most part, men and women communicate very differently; misunderstandings are not only common but almost impossible to avoid. Many women would be surprised to discover that men really do stress about what to give a woman for Valentine’s Day. Men may claim it doesn’t matter or try to minimize the holiday’s importance but, believe me, your man worries about how to please you. For every man wanting to make his part

Knowing you're loved and feeling the love are two TOTALLY different things. Miscommunication happens frequently in families, among friends and in relationships. Expecting an "I love you" or "You look pretty" is not too much to ask, so why do so many spouses neglect saying it to the one they love? Does a spouse have to say "I love you" when they've mowed the lawn or taken you to dinner, as well as taken out the trash in an effort to show their commitment and affection? Everyon

If you are a woman you can relate to the fact then many men always seem “on.” They may work all day, come home exhausted, but if you mention sex, most of them are ready and raring to go. Women are not like this. We need time to make a transition into sexy. A big mistake many couples with small children make is on date night, if dinner is set for 7p.m. they have the sitter come at 6:30 or 6:45. The date may feel hurried, tense, and doesn’t usually end with both people feeling