Divorces are painful, and the people going through them are confused, angry, frustrated, and overwhelmed. You’re on a roller coaster of feelings and posting how you feel on social media about your divorce or your ex is never a good idea. You may feel as though the people seeing it are your friends, but many people reading your tragic details are not true friends, and nothing is perfectly private on social media. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media posts are o

When couples split up, everyone wants to know what happened. Friends close to the couple may say, “I thought they were so happy together,” or, “Why after so many years?” However, it’s not always the big things that cause the biggest threat. Sometimes it’s the little things; for example, the numerous times you broke a promise, didn’t show gratitude, or forgot a special occasion. In long-term relationships, the constant threat is taking your partner for granted and failing to m

There is no perfect marriage and all marriages need constant attention to keep them vibrant and alive. Years of working with couples has taught me the number one reason marriages fall apart is because partners stop listening and paying attention to each other. When someone feels as though what they say or feel doesn’t matter, they learn to protect themselves from getting hurt. They achieve this by giving up on expressing their emotional needs. Once this happens the couple los

When someone you love leaves your heart is broken. Taking care of your fragile self is so important. When someone we love leaves or walks out the door, our immediate reaction may be one of hysterics, deep sadness, relief, and sometimes, even jubilation. These feelings eventually dissipate and new feelings take their place. The feelings that replace the initial feelings are more intense and stored deep within our brain. Forget trying to distract yourself from these memories, b

I want to thank all of the men who trusted me in their “brokenness.” At no other time was my perception of their strength so real. Their stories inspired this article, and it hopefully will go on to help others. -MJR Women still initiate most divorces in the United States. The reasons are varied, and it doesn’t really matter why it happened in the mind of the man who is left. If there are kids, the silence can be deafening because the kids usually go with the mom. Feelings of

Why falling out of love may be the best thing that happens to your marriage. Divorce happens in approximately one out of two marriages. That number has fluctuated and, although we are currently seeing fewer divorces, many people still choose divorce over working on their marriage. Roughly half of divorced couples say they split up because they “fell out of love” with their partner. Is falling out of love the end of your relationship? Is it possible to fall back in love? Not o

Most of us have been through a heartbreak and remember the experience vividly when called to mind. When you find that one special person and invest yourself completely into their care, it affects both your mind and body when you lose them. Studies have shown that within minutes of hearing your partner talk about breaking up or leaving, your heart rate drops significantly. You may recognize this happening with a feeling of faintness or nausea. Your body isn’t done reacting to

You thought you had found the perfect guy. You couldn’t imagine him cheating or walking out on you. I hear this frequently in my office…why didn’t he tell you how he felt? Why did he clam up or act like everything was okay when it wasn’t? He was so into you, and you never thought he would leave. There are things that guys keep to themselves. The majority of men I counsel are complimentary about their partners – until I ask them how she makes him feel. Then they begin revealin