Divorces are painful, and the people going through them are confused, angry, frustrated, and overwhelmed. You’re on a roller coaster of feelings and posting how you feel on social media about your divorce or your ex is never a good idea. You may feel as though the people seeing it are your friends, but many people reading your tragic details are not true friends, and nothing is perfectly private on social media. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media posts are o

Divorce has gone down, except in one category. That category is empty-nesters. It’s common for couples to experience anxiety prior to their children leaving. In fact, many couples go through a transition period, similar to what their child goes through, three to six months prior to them moving out. They don’t sleep well, feel more stressed, and worry about their future. There are uncertainties about what your life will look life when the kids move out; will you be one of thos

When couples split up, everyone wants to know what happened. Friends close to the couple may say, “I thought they were so happy together,” or, “Why after so many years?” However, it’s not always the big things that cause the biggest threat. Sometimes it’s the little things; for example, the numerous times you broke a promise, didn’t show gratitude, or forgot a special occasion. In long-term relationships, the constant threat is taking your partner for granted and failing to m

There is no perfect marriage and all marriages need constant attention to keep them vibrant and alive. Years of working with couples has taught me the number one reason marriages fall apart is because partners stop listening and paying attention to each other. When someone feels as though what they say or feel doesn’t matter, they learn to protect themselves from getting hurt. They achieve this by giving up on expressing their emotional needs. Once this happens the couple los

It seems ironic, but for the first time in marriage history, your risk for divorce is higher as you age. This is especially true if you’re 55 years or older. What’s behind this new trend? It’s multi-faceted. Millennials are cohabiting and delaying marriage until later in life, which is the reason their divorce rate has lowered. Meanwhile, couples that have been together for 20 years or more are divorcing. Here are a few reasons: Second or multiple marriages have a greater ris

Dating has never been as complicated or easy to access as it is today. You can find a partner with the swipe of your finger and get a glimpse of their life by downloading an app. It becomes an even more difficult situation if you break up with them but stay connected to their social media. Orbiting is a new phenomenon that describes someone who leaves your life but continues to be involved in your social media. This allows your ex to comment and view what you’re doing. It sen

When someone you love leaves your heart is broken. Taking care of your fragile self is so important. When someone we love leaves or walks out the door, our immediate reaction may be one of hysterics, deep sadness, relief, and sometimes, even jubilation. These feelings eventually dissipate and new feelings take their place. The feelings that replace the initial feelings are more intense and stored deep within our brain. Forget trying to distract yourself from these memories, b

I want to thank all of the men who trusted me in their “brokenness.” At no other time was my perception of their strength so real. Their stories inspired this article, and it hopefully will go on to help others. -MJR Women still initiate most divorces in the United States. The reasons are varied, and it doesn’t really matter why it happened in the mind of the man who is left. If there are kids, the silence can be deafening because the kids usually go with the mom. Feelings of

Divorce statistics are ever changing, but currently most divorces occur in March and August and roughly half of all marriages end in divorce. Although it seems like a quick fix, divorce is a process that usually goes on for years. Marriage experts believe that half of all divorces wouldn’t have to happen if couples were able to find ways to work out their differences. However, many couples get tired and exasperated when they don’t see changes in their partner or their situati

Marriage is work and, although engaged couples rarely envision themselves as a divorce statistic, roughly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. When you ask people what predicts divorce, many say cheating, laziness, or self-centeredness. Those qualities hurt a marriage and prevent healthy growth in the marriage, but they don’t predict divorce as significantly as a husband’s employment status does. Starting in 1970, a sociology professor began compiling research data on the