With the latest news about pregnant Kloe Kardashian finding out about her husband’s serial cheating scandals, it hard to imagine a more devastating situation. Marriage research suggests that serial cheaters feel less and less at fault after each cheating episode. Serial cheating is often referred to as “adaptation to dishonesty.” Lying essentially becomes habitual and feels less uncomfortable each time. After a while, you don’t feel guilt or shame, which makes treatment or ch

Long before physical cheating happens within a marriage there are episodes of mindless, careless actions couples begin doing. These are not thought of as cheating, but they are a betrayal and when you’re the partner of someone who is engaged with one of the “casual forms of cheating” you feel worthless, unloved and disrespected. Many couples don’t talk about their feelings and they dismiss them as not being important, or related to a bad mood or a bad day at work. However, be

Porn is everywhere today, and it’s available on every gadget you own. This compulsion has ruined numerous marriages and relationships, but another problem with porn is how it impacts the mind. Porn changes brain chemistry, making the user less likely to appreciate and sustain a loving relationship. However, these changes don’t happen overnight, which is why porn advocates continue to dismiss the claims. If you watch porn or live with someone who does, the list below may expla

Marriage is tough and commitment is not biologically natural, which is one reason when you get married you must commit to monogamy. This is my theory, and although there are many theories in marital therapy, the one that works the best is the one that works for the couple. I find it interesting that humans never change although technology is changing at a rate so fast few of us can keep up. One of the changes is a slew of apps and websites to cheat. Couples using these apps a

Emotional affairs (EAs) are sneaky and it is common to find out you are in one without really understanding when and how it happened. Facebook, instant messaging, texting, and tweeting have opened doors for emotional affairs to storm in and have also built the walls necessary to keep it secret. These are two of the absolutes for an emotional affair to exist. EAs begin innocently enough. They take place at work, school, happy hours, and coffee hours, almost anywhere whenever t

Long before physical cheating happens within a marriage there are episodes of mindless, careless actions couples begin doing. These are not thought of as cheating, but they are a betrayal and when you’re the partner of someone who is engaged with one of the “casual forms of cheating” you feel worthless, unloved and disrespected. Many couples don’t talk about their feelings and they dismiss them as not being important, or related to a bad mood or a bad day at work. But being t

Are you just in the wrong place at the wrong time or are you finding yourself constantly being approached, wined and dined by unavailable men? It’s becoming easier for many women to find themselves in a situation where they have the right chemistry, great conversation and intimacy with someone they later find out is newly married, recently separated, but not divorced, or married for life but not happy. There are numerous reasons people continue to date even when they’re commi

This past week I had a client who was relatively new to me. She is young, professional and seeking a relationship with a good guy. She wants a family and feels ready. She was all smiles this week, a change I noted immediately. When visiting with her more, I mentioned how happy she looked. She smiled coyly and told me she was in love. Being in love makes all of us happier. We feel cared for and euphoric with the idea that we matter to someone else. I asked her about the guy, a