Looking for more help? Check out my video on letting go of anger or download my PDF guide on giving up the grudge. When you hear of someone who held a grudge for years and resorted to destruction that impacted their friends and family you may ask yourself, who does that? The answer, unfortunately, is that manypeople hold deep grudges that last a lifetime. They’re unable to let go of the hurt and anger even if they are trying to forgive. Why do people hold grudges even when th

No matter where you work or who you live with, you’ll experience conflict. This is especially true mid-summer; as temperatures rise, so do our tempers. Not to mention there are new transitions happening at home. In mid to late summer you begin thinking about the kids going back to school and new work schedules; often there is accompanying guilt that comes from trying to be all things to all people. For most of us, dealing with conflict is upsetting. We’re not comfortable gett

A frequent question I hear is, “Should I divorce?” How do you know when your marriage is over? It’s a difficult question and one no one can answer for you. For one couple, a cheating spouse may be the final reason. For another couple, cheating may be worked through, but the in-laws may be the reason for divorce. I usually advise couples to wait and put every ounce of energy they can into salvaging the marriage. I also ask them to think about issues: How will your children far

It’s a well-known that the three biggest problems for couples are communication, sex, and finances, but that’s not what the majority of couples fight about. The number one conflict is over “nothing” according to relationship experts. Couples rarely sit down and discuss what they’re arguing about and if you listen, you’ll find the content rather tedious. These often silly arguments that appear out of nowhere are a couple’s way of engaging each other; depending on how disconnec