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Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity?



While movies and romance novels often portray cheating as the ultimate demise of a marriage, it's important to recognize that many marriages manage to weather the storm of infidelity. In literature, statistics show that around 50% of such relationships end in divorce, but arriving at that decision is far from simple. In fact, experiencing infidelity triggers a series of emotions including shock, confusion, rage, and hurt, creating a cyclical process. In my practice, I've observed that two-thirds of couples are able to rebuild their trust and navigate the pain of betrayal. This journey is far from effortless, often taking couples two years or more to begin feeling secure in their newly forged bond.


A key factor is acknowledging the need to mourn the old marriage, for it's impossible to establish a new and improved union without releasing the grip on the past. Post-infidelity, everything changes, a realization my clients grasp before committing to the arduous task of rebuilding their marriage. Marriage experts offer several guidelines to determine if a marriage can survive after infidelity. Here are five crucial principles for rekindling your relationship:


  1. Halting the Cheating: A significant shift is necessary, and this begins with severing all ties with the person with whom the cheating occurred. Ending this relationship is paramount to curbing the damage inflicted by infidelity.

  2. Transparency and Honesty: Total honesty and openness are non-negotiable. Being forthright with your spouse and divulging all relevant information is vital. Even if revealing the whole truth causes setbacks, it's essential to avoid withholding any details.

  3. Addressing Past Wounds: It's imperative to engage in discussions about past grievances, pain, and confusion. Seeking the assistance of a therapist can provide a constructive platform for addressing these issues. During these conversations, drop defenses, listen attentively to your partner, and offer apologies as needed. Commit to behavioral changes that prevent future harm, ensuring your promises aren't empty.

  4. Rebuilding Trust: Trust is rebuilt through consistent follow-through on small commitments. This is the most challenging aspect of resurrecting a marriage and requires daily effort. Initiating this process involves actions like sharing passwords, deleting old profiles, and creating joint accounts. Be accessible when your partner checks up on you and demonstrate your commitment through actions that align with your words.

  5. Exceeding Effort: The effort invested must outweigh the residual pain. Both partners must recommit to the marriage, embracing forgiveness and making sacrifices. It's crucial to accept that a new normal will replace the old, and this adjustment period typically lasts two to three years after the cheating incident. If uncertainty looms regarding the desire to salvage the marriage, honesty with your spouse is paramount.


Marriages can endure infidelity and even emerge stronger than before, but achieving this outcome necessitates substantial effort and a shared commitment to forgiveness and growth. The individual who strayed must accept full responsibility without resorting to blame, while the betrayed partner must practice forgiveness and acknowledge the fallibility of human nature. The ultimate objective is to create a loving marriage, but if the pain proves insurmountable and progress is hindered, the marriage may be irreparably damaged. Regardless of the chosen path, remember that your children and your partner will forever be part of your life's narrative.

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