Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years Eve are just around the corner. For the majority of couples that means lots of together time. For individuals who have found a special someone that usually means going home and sharing dinner together with mom, dad, family and friends. The question was raised last week by a group of friends, “If your relationship isn’t going anywhere and you don’t see a ring in the future, should you break up before the holidays or wait until they’re over? F
A large part of my practice is seeing clients who have been recently divorced. It’s painful and includes panic attacks, body aches, insomnia, and many symptoms that are similar to post-traumatic stress disorder. This is the reality of divorce even though society tries to help with post-divorce parties and friends telling you that you can do better without your loser spouse; the heart and mind react differently. No one can escape the effects of divorce. Celebrities, such as De
We all know the warm feeling we get from thanking someone and making them feel good, but new research shows that gratitude physically helps you and the person you’re grateful for. Clinical research found that gratitude lowers blood pressure, improves immune function, and facilitates restful sleep. A study from the University of California found that people who were more grateful through their words and actions had better heart health with less inflammation; essentially, grati
I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even
marry you because I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect
people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that
protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that
promise.-Thornton Wilder My oldest daugh
No one considers the effects of chronic illness on their relationship, but those who live with illness can tell you there is a big change. The sooner couples talk about their fear, anger, confusion and guilt to the more support and increase in intimacy they’ll experience. Sharing these feelings and concerns with your partner helps you and your partner feel more like a team and draws you closer. Infertility, impotence, a colostomy bag, the loss of a breast or in the case of Mu
If you’re feeling shaken after the election and more uncertain than you’ve ever felt, you’re not alone. Many felt they had certainty in the future and were sure their candidate would win. In your personal life, you may be facing uncertainty as well; an unexpected illness, pregnancy or move now seems inevitable. The best way to deal with uncertainty is to accept it as part of life. Instead of making yourself a victim of the change, begin to plan for it. Coping with uncertainty
When we talk about menopause we think of older women, hot flashes, irritability, night sweats, and a miserable time. Those symptoms are a reality for many women during this time. However, not all women experience the physical symptoms. An estimated 6,000 women in the United States reach menopause every day, and with increasing life expectancy, women will spend up to 40% of their lives post-menopausal. This does not mean they will continue with the physical symptoms, but it m