Parents, your children's safety may depend upon you knowing their text and instant messaging lingo. Numerous websites, including TrueCare.net and Netsmartz.org, are now helping parents learn how to understand what their kids are saying to each other in an effort to prevent and stop bullying. For example, did you know that CD9 means parents are around or that MIRL means meet me in real life? If you think you have had the talk with your child and they understand the rules about texting and instant messaging, don't be sure that this is all you need to know to be safe. I participated in 17 stories for HLN and CNN last year. About 13 of those stories had to do with children being hospitalized or killed due to bullying, suicide, or kidnappings from people they talked to on the internet or texting.

Below are a few terms that will help you get started with understanding your children's texts or instant messaging.

• Starbucks…*$
• Thanks…10x
• One to one…121
• I love you…143
• I hate you…182
• To…2
• Too cool …2c
• Too cool for you…2c4u
• Today…2 day
• Too hot to handle…2H2H
• Too late…2L8
• Too much to handle…2M2H
• Too much information…2 MI
• Tomorrow…2morrow or 2mrw
• Tonight …2nite
• To you too …2U2
• Mom…303
• Threesome…3sum
• For… 4
• Information…411
• Marijuana…420
• Forever…4ever
• Forgive me…4GM
• For real …4rl
• For you…4U
• For you too…4U2
• Forward … 4ward
• Oral Sex…8
• Over, out of, get rid of…86
• Parent in room…CD9
• Parent has left…99
• Anyplace, anywhere, anytime…A3
• Always and forever …AAF
• As a matter of fact… AAMOF
• Address… addy
• As far as I'm concerned…AFAIAC
• At home… AH
• AOL Instant Messenger…AIM
• Actually laughing out loud…ALOL
• Available on cell…AOC
• Angel on your pillow…AOYP
• Age, sex, location… ASL
• Age, Sex, Location, Picture…ASLP
• At what time …AWT
• As you know…AYK
• Are you stupid or something…AYSOS
• Drug of choice…DOC

There has become a sexualization of youth in our society. Sex is power, and kids want power. They want to fit in and feel good, and there are people who do not have your children's best interest at heart. These people are available at all times via the internet and texting. Parents must be aware and talk with their kids. Make your home a safe place your child can come home to. You can create a safe place by following these guidelines offered by Netsmartz.org.

1. Keep the computer in a common area.
2. Create safe user names and profiles.
3. Don't let your children meet face to face with strangers they met online (you have to be checking to know).
4. Teach children what to do if they get an offensive or threatening IM, email, or chatroom post (they should begin with showing you). For cyberbullying, go to wiredsafety.org or email www.cybertipline.com. You can also call them at 1-800-¬843-5678.
5. Look into filtering or monitoring software for your computer.
6. Let children show you what they can do online and visit their favorite sites.

Parents, it takes your involvement to keep your child safe. Remember that girls cyber bully more than boys, and that bullying is no longer the bullying you grew up with. It is constant torture, and it happens at a time your child's sense of self is not fully developed. This is part of the reason it can have disastrous effects on children. Any child under the age of 14 should not be on a social network. If your tween is on Facebook, MySpace or any of the other social networks, I would ask you to reconsider setting firmer boundaries at home. Blaming the schools, churches or wherever else your child encountered a harmful person will not help if your child is hurt, nor will it heal your pain if your child takes their life.