As a psychotherapist I treat many kinds of people who have suffered from abuse. The worst of all abuse is sexual abuse. It is a terrible crime and has serious consequences. It causes depression, anxiety, a loss of self esteem and usually scars the girl or woman for the rest of her life. Men and boys can be victims of sexual abuse also but in the majority of cases it is about men having power and control over girls or women. It isn't about sex but they use sex as a means of hurting a girl as it is the most intimate and cruel way to hurt someone and make them fearful. Due to the nature of sexual assault the victim usually feels alone, worthless, guilty and scared.

Unfortunately this leads to many cases never being reported (especially if a family member is the perpetrator). It is very important that moms talk to their daughters about sexual assault. Mom's should help their daughters understand that their body is their own and no one is allowed to touch your private parts without your permission. Go over this with your daughter when she is very young. Have her verbalize it. Are your parents allowed to touch your private parts without your consent? "NO". Is Grandma? "NO" Is Grandpa? "NO". The list should go on and on so your child understands clearly that her body is her own.

As your daughter gets older continue an open dialogue with her in regards to date rape, date rape drugs, and boundaries with dating. If she knows she can come to you she will talk to you about what she has heard from her friends and issues she worries about with a boyfriend. Teach her that "No" means "NO" and she has a right to say it at any time.

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