Viewer questions this week are in loving relationships they want to protect. Susan is making sure her feelings for her boyfriend are real and Shannon is taking the necessary steps to ensure future marriage success.
Dear Mary Jo,
I’m in a relationship but wondering if there’s a difference between young love and adult love?
An interesting question, and I think what you may be confused or concerned about is the ever changing nature of love. Young or immature love can happen no matter how old you are just as mature love. In fact, many teens experience a mature form of love. The more immature or young the love is felt the more you’ll experience drama and the likelihood of getting wrapped up in it. Immature or young love is more about the moment, whereas mature love is motivated by deep feelings of love. Mature love happens when a couple want to make a life together and are both willing to invest and work with their problems. Immature love is more infatuated or flakey when it comes to commitment or keeping a promise, and it’s on as well as off again. Mature love or real love ages better and develops more depth. Mature love doesn’t worry about petty things and has an ability to address problems as obstacles are faced together, understanding that change is a process. Immature love gives up easily and cannot withstand the tests of time. Marital therapists can tell within the first two sessions if the couple has a mature or immature expression of love.
Dear Mary Jo,
I’m in a relationship and wondering if I move in with my girlfriend before marriage is my divorce rate going to be higher or lower?
It sounds logical that if you’re going to marry someone it will help if you live with them first, but this isn’t true according to marriage statistics. Couples who live together prior to marriage have a higher chance of divorce. The only time marriage isn’t negatively affected is if the couple is engaged and move in together for a short time prior to marriage. This option most likely doesn’t increase your chance for divorce because there is a commitment and the couple is already working on the details for their marriage ceremony.