No matter who you are or where your relationship is at, you can improve it. Experts in the field of psychology and relationships agree on several of them, and this is my favorite list of the top five. Reminding yourself in the New Year that your relationship is created by you is the first step in creating one you love being part of.
- Practice better listening. Most couples believe they are good listeners and hear their partner, but real listening is about understanding why your partner feels the way they do and helping them feel validated and heard.
- Continue to play together. Experts agree that couples that play together stay together. Couples who share exciting, exhilarating activities together such as rock climbing, white water rafting or adventurous tours report an increase in closeness and relationship satisfaction.
- Say and show you love each other every day. When couples receive and express love to their partner they report feeling more affection for one another as well experience better heart health. Feeling loved is good for your heart and brain.
- Get involved in your faith as a couple. If you aren’t religious commit to a cause the two of you can both support. Sharing a vision together and having a community of support helps you feel as though you’re part of something bigger and committed together. This helps fortify and strengthen your commitment.
- Practice Forgiveness. When you’re close to someone you’re inevitably going to hurt, disappoint and let them down at some time. Being able to let go of the past and forgive one another’s faults helps you resolve the past. No one is perfect. Understanding and forgiving your partner’s actions in an effort to move forward together helps you resolve hurts from the past and frees you to embrace the future together.
The New Year is a celebration of starting over, building anew and re-investing in your relationship. These resolutions can help you make 2016 a fantastic year for you and the one you love.