Two hot dating topics to discuss with your partner this week. Do you think it’s socially acceptable for men to cheat? Is your relationship lop-sided with gender roles? If so, maybe your focus is on impressing the person rather than doing what makes them feel cared for. Talk about it and see where your partner stands on the issue as well.
Dear Mary Jo,
Why is it socially acceptable for men to cheat on women?
It’s not socially acceptable for men to cheat anymore than it is for women. Both men and women cheat and cheating is a choice. The act of cheating always says more about the cheater’s character than the one being cheated on. It is dishonest, dishonorable and selfish.
Dear Mary Jo,
How do you deal with lopsided gender roles? I’m willing to open doors for you, but should she be willing to cook for me?
Don’t be a gentleman because someone expects it. Be a gentleman because that’s who you are and it’s a sign of good character. If you’re in a relationship with someone you care about, you’ll want do things that make them happy, so if your girlfriend knows it makes you happy when she cooks for you, she’ll try cooking. Not because it’s expected of her, but because it makes you happy. There are inequalities with who does what in relationships, but much of that is because couples are trying to impress each other to get something rather than doing things because they enjoy seeing their partner happy. When you give to receive no matter what the situation, it’s going to turn into a judgment of fairness. The best relationships work together and sometimes that means you’re giving more and other times that means you’re receiving.