Viewer questions this week address the increasing economic stress and the strain it takes on relationships as well as the complexity of knowing you have found “the one.” Both questions are complex and important discussions in today’s increasingly complicated world.
Dear Mary Jo,
With today’s economic stress how do you leave work at work so you can enjoy a relationship?
Economic stress weighs heavily on many. An inability to turn off after work disrupts the balance of relationships as well as life, leading to stress and eventually emotional and physical distress. Research supports the importance of taking breaks away from work in order to rejuvenate your mind and spark creativity. Therefore, taking the time to engage and enjoy relationships is as important to your mental wellbeing as it is to your physical and business wellbeing. Relationships demand attention and therefore scheduling time into your normal work day for your loved one seems to work best. Things such as communicating during the day with short breaks away from your desk, taking lunch away from the office during the week or sharing breakfast in the morning without checking in will help. It’s a learned discipline because the compulsion to check in at the office will be strong, and the advances of social media have made it easier to do, but any habit can be broken if you practice the healthy habits of taking much needed “me time”. Feeling balanced and having someone special in your life adds meaning and depth to your life. Your business health, as well as your emotional and physical health, benefit when you put yourself and your relationship needs first.
Dear Mary Jo,
What is the key to having a long lasting relationship, and how do you know she’s the one?
There are many things to assess whether someone is right for you, and matching on all of them isn’t a guarantee. The key is finding a partner you can work with, talk with, and connect with; who is mature enough to resolve conflicts that come up and accepts you for who you are. The majority of relationships end due to unmet expectations from one partner and the inability to work through conflict and negotiate solutions. You’ll know if she’s the right one because she’ll accept you for who you are, want what’s in the relationship’s best interest and be your number one fan. The right person for a long term relationship is comfortable with forgiving as well as being forgiven, is in control of their expectations, and understands that it takes two to create a great relationship.