The relationship question this week requests help with vital aspects of long-term relationships. Expecting someone to think like you will never lead to marital bliss, so learning how to communicate with your partner in a way they’ll understand helps you feel more connected and content.
Dear Mary Jo,
I love my husband very much, but sometimes I want to hit him in the head with a rolling pin? What can I do to stop this feeling?
First of all, don’t hit him in the head with a rolling pin. Many women get frustrated with their partner due to expectations, which is never fair. Your man listens and communicates differently than you because his brain is influenced with testosterone, which gives him focus, and he listens to see what he can fix. Women communicate with estrogen which makes your mind overthink and network all sorts of conversations in your head. You end up creating stories that aren’t relevant to the issues. Therefore, when there’s a problem men will say, “Why didn’t you tell me?” Women feel as though they did tell him, but he didn’t listen or get it. When men say they’re simple, they mean they are logical without the overthinking or unrelated thoughts women have going on in their minds. To avoid frustration, be direct with what you want and don’t bring in distracting information or thoughts you have. Most likely he has learned to tune it out in order to fix the problem.