Viewers’ questions this week are related to improving your marriage. Communication and financial problems are two of the most common reasons couples argue and split. Read on to improve your own marriage and share with someone you love. The best marriages aren’t given; they’re created by two people who want to be married and share their life together.
Dear Mary Jo,
How many times should I expect to hear from my husband every day?
That’s a tricky question, because some couples are more effective at communicating non-verbally and they feel as though they don’t need to talk during the workday. The average married couple sends a text or message via email or phone once a day…maybe at lunchtime. However, some of the closest couples I know don’t like texting or talking when they’re at work, but the minute they leave and are on their way home they give their significant other a call. If you’re feeling isolated and as though your partner doesn’t think about you during the day, then tell them and brainstorm ways you can make each other feel more loved. Sometimes couples feel more connected when their partner is more demonstrative with hugs and touching at home. There is no set number of times you are supposed to communicate, but marriages that communicate frequently and effectively report being happier.
Dear Mary Jo,
Should married couples separate their finances?
No. Couples should share at least 80% of their income in a joint account they both have access to (provided both have the same views about money in their marriage). Monthly budget talks are also important so they can work together with a savings plan that will benefit their marriage. Research supports that couples who share at least 80% of their income in a marriage are happier than those who share less. Sharing incomes promotes working together to make the relationship work, builds trust, and there are fewer money arguments. Plus it’s a lot less complicated to combine incomes. When one person is not contributing their fair share or has a separate account it leads to mistrust, weaker commitments, and intimacy suffers more. The way one manages their money is correlated with the way one loves. Generosity between couples financially correlates to their sex lives in the marriage.