Good Tuesday Morning, Friends! My Soul Intention: why let something that means nothing ruin your relationship that means everything? A recent study in a popular marriage journal surveyed couples and what they argue about. 80% of those surveyed said the arguments were silly and not about anything. The couples went on to say they argued in an effort to persuade their partner that their way was the right way. Later when couples were given a cool off period the majority of them agreed the argument made them more upset and didn’t solve anything. In fact, it made them feel more distant and less understood. The majority of arguments do nothing to make your day better and they waste time as well as energy. When you feel yourself getting pulled into an argument ask yourself two questions:
1. Will arguing about this issue enhance my day?
2. Will discussing this now make our relationship better?
If the answer is no to both, then tell your partner you love them too much to get into an argument that will leave you feeling upset and less loving. If the answer is yes to these two questions, then set a timer for 5 minutes and discuss the issue. The longer you keep it going after that the more harmful the effect. There are issues that need working on. Don’t waste your marriage on the arguments that mean nothing.