Two great questions this week, both centered on the complications of the dating world.
With the popularity of cross-fit and body building for women, how do men feel about the alpha women?
Beauty has many different dimensions, but the psychology of attraction says gender recognition is very important. All men are attracted to healthy women, but if there is excessive muscle development, the majority of men view a woman as more masculine. Femininity is an important quality the majority of guys are attracted to, and men aren’t attracted to women who threaten their masculinity. Both women and men know that where you invest your time you invest your heart. A woman who spends countless hours at the gym may not deem a relationship as important, and guys may be intimidated if they aren’t as physically fit as their partner. These are considerations to entertain, but good communication between two people can help minimize these concerns.
Why do men play a push and pull game? They make your feel secure enough, but then push you away from the idea of making you exclusive.
People play all sorts of games when they’re dating, but you won’t be used in their game if you know exactly what you want. Basically, people invest their time and effort into what they want, and if you’re finding that men value you sometimes but hesitate to make you exclusive, they’re not prioritizing you. They may like you, but they see you as an option. Get clear about what you want, and be direct with them, or you’ll be forced to play their game, which is, “I want you when I want you and when it’s convenient for me.”