Viewer questions this week are concerned with setting boundaries and commitment. No matter what the situation it’s important to be clear about your boundaries and what you expect.
Dear Mary Jo,
Recently my sister moved into the apartment that I live in with my boyfriend, and it’s driving me crazy. I have no space and it’s affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m wondering what to do.
Dear Lindsey, Who is paying the rent? If you are, then you have a choice of who lives there. Set your boundaries. If this is an agreement you and your sister decided together, then you need to sit down together and work out the situation. If this is an agreement you made to help your sister out, that’s honorable, but at the same time if you don’t talk to her about how you’re feeling, you’re not being honest and that will only make the situation worse.
Dear Mary Jo,
I just moved in with my girlfriend 3 months ago and everything is going great, but I’m wondering if it’s going to last or will it get better or worse? I was wondering what to expect.
Relationships are alive and that means the one thing you can count on is they will change. The couple decides if it will change for the better or worse, and that is determined by the couple’s commitment and interest in staying together. It sounds like you’re worried about it, so I would talk to your girlfriend and be vulnerable with your intentions as well as your expectations. It’s more difficult to be vulnerable and open with your heart, but any relationship worth committing to is worthy of complete honesty and authenticity.