New Years brings thoughts of starting over and making New Year’s resolutions to live a healthier life. New diets as well as new exercise plans get underway, and almost every advertiser has a new way of creating a new you in the New Year. Our relationships don’t get the focus that weight loss, exercise and healthy eating do, but it’s every bit as important in determining your overall health. Starting your New Year with a new focus on re-creating your relationship is a healthy step and one that can bring lasting love into your life.
Relationships are exciting in the beginning with “first moments” such as the first kiss, the first time you say, “I love you,” and the first time you spend the night together, but with time couples forget and take for granted these “firsts.” Recreating them into your relationship in the New Year adds awareness, and brings attention to the moments that make your relationship unique.
Date nights are important, but planning a date night to celebrate moments of firsts is not only intriguing, but it gets your relationship off to a great start. These three simple steps can help you re-create your relationship and help revive what may seem routine and lifeless.
- Take time New Years Eve or New Years Day to talk to your partner about moments they thought were most special. Maybe your first date or where you first met. If you were attending a special event, get tickets to go to that event again. It will add fun, and no matter where you first met, it’s symbolic for the couple you’ve grown to become.
- Where was your first kiss or where did you first realize you were in love? Plan a romantic dinner or event to celebrate that. If it’s a place you can get to easily, go there together. You are celebrating the moment that was part of your beginning as a couple. This strengthens your relationship by reminding you both how important your relationship is to each other.
- Where were you when you first became intimate? What were you thinking, wearing, and who was flirtier? These are small moments that have a huge impact in making you both realize how far you’ve come. Bring awareness into your intimate times together.
In a healthy relationship it’s the small moments and all the “firsts” that determine the way the relationship grows. Couples that take one another for granted and focus the majority of their attention onto their children, neglecting their partner, end up living as roommates instead of couples in love. Take time for the two of you in the New Year. Celebrating the “firsts” and keeping those moments alive in the present will help you continue to re-invent your relationship, and mentor for your children the importance you place on loving each other.