Each week on Fox 26 I answer viewer questions. This week I answer Lucia, Ken and Sunny. Their questions may be your questions too. Let’s continue to help each other by asking and sending our relationship questions to Mary Jo.
Dear Mary Jo,
I am a mom of young kids and I am overwhelmed. I feel frumpy and I am dissatisfied with the way I’ve let my body go. I have no sex drive and don’t know where to start. Can you help me?
you feel this way now, but this is not the end of your story. Do these things and get control of your body. When we have body confidence, we become more empowered to structure the rest of our lives.
- Clean out all junk food from your house…..kids don’t need it and hubbies don’t either.
- Get the free 7 min. workout app (or go to the library and get an exercise video for free). Begin with the beginner’s level and do what you can. After a couple of weeks you can advance. Libraries are kid friendly and free.
- Get up and dress in something that doesn’t have an elastic waistband. Elastic waistbands expand and so will your tummy. They don’t make you feel as good about your body either.
- Do one nice thing for you every day. Whether that’s buying you a red rose or reading a chapter from a novel you enjoy…do it because it makes you feel loved.
- Feeling sorry for yourself is a form of self-abuse…quit doing it.
Good luck…keep growing and begin self-love with you.
Dear Mary Jo,
I am a single dad, my GF told me last week you talked about easing kids’ back to school stress. Do you have any idea how I can calm my kids down in general? Their mom left a year ago and they seem anxious with biting their nails, and acting out.
“Stressed Out Dad”
If you are worried your kids are intensely stressed out, seek the advice of their pediatrician for a counselor. Otherwise, try these three things:
- Blowing bubbles. Teaches your child how to relax, breathe, and it is impossible to worry when you are blowing out (another reason they tell you before a shot to pretend you are blowing bubbles). Playing with your kids helps them feel loved as well.
- Make a worry jar…and then empty the jar on one night of the week (pizza night), and tell talk to them about their worries.
- Help your kids create a “calm down box” or a “self soothing box.” We do this with adults who have panic issues as well. It’s a box full of ways they can calm down. Putting things like crayons, paper, a book, squeeze ball, calming music or an article of clothing with a favorite smell or cologne on it can help calm stress and prevent worry.
Empowering your kids to deal with their stress now will prevent drug addiction and low school performance in the future.
I’m so glad you are putting your priority into raising your child! Children must always come first.
Dear Mary Jo,
How can I still feel like a good mother/wife when dealing with new physical limitations that stop me from doing all the things I did before?
Sunny, it isn’t what we do for our kids that help them feel loved; it’s the way we do it. You can still hug your kids, be an excellent listener, a confident, and you can pray, text them, and write small notes. Kids and spouses need to know they are loved. They understand that when their parents and wives give them attention, respect and support. Your time is priceless and the greatest gift of all.