Opportunities are exciting; everything is shinny and new. In order to have new opportunities you have to let go of old ones. That isn’t easy…and it’s scary. Sometimes the decision to leave is easy. You’re going to make a huge amount of money, or the place you live in is declining quickly and you know you need to get out. With relationships it’s tougher. Many times relationships fill a void and thinking about the emptiness you will feel, even if it wasn’t a good relationship, isn’t something most people look forward to. There are ways you know when it’s time to move on, and below are five of my favorites I ask myself before I make a change.
- Is my fear of the unknown what’s holding me back? When it’s the fear of what might happen or of losing the security you have that holds you back, you are sacrificing an opportunity for growth by holding on to fear.
- Is staying where I am putting me in a compromised position? Is staying at my job or this relationship making me give up my own values, morals and my life purpose? If you have to sacrifice all you hold dearest, the position you are in is not healthy.
- Am I in this alone? If you are the only one who cares or is committed in your relationship, then you have to leave it. Basically you’re in a relationship by yourself, defeating the whole idea of being in a relationship.
- Do you feel valued or do you feel as though no one appreciates you? Let’s face it; what makes relationships meaningful is your loved one valuing your presence. If you are no longer valued or appreciated, it leaves you feeling worse about yourself. Do what’s best for you and move on.
- Your relationship vision is going nowhere. When you lose the sense that there is no shared vision or goal to improve and grow better, the relationship has died. If your partner is not interested in working toward restoring and improving what you have together, the relationship cannot be fixed. This happens at work as well. When you’ve grown as far as you can within a job, if you want more growth, but they aren’t ready to expand your position, it is a good idea to begin the search for new job employment.
Relationships are alive, and they must be nurtured to continue growing and thriving. If you find yourself in a stagnant relationship where your value and participation is no longer appreciated or nurtured, it’s time to reinvest in you and find new opportunities that will support and nurture your growth.